Today is one of those days I hate. You know the kind that you really can't put up with a whole lot. I've been trying really hard to keep my cool, but today is a hard day being a mom and wife. I woke up to a pukey migrainey husband. I myself was and am not feeling so hot. Hayden must be going stir crazy or something cause we really haven't left, well he hasn't really left the house in a couple of days. Stir Crazy Hayden=One crazy mama.
I have really tried to keep my patience. Hayden is special and my little man and my pal, but I tell you the kid has a temper, he's not patient, and when he wants it there is no stopping him!!! Today he seemed to be after everything. My cell, wanting to unroll the toilet paper, trying to grab the camera, clawing my eyes out with his nails, pulling my hair, trying to get at our really nice family scriptures that Grandma Rhonda got us, trying to get into play in the toilet and who knows what else. The hard part? How the heck do you discipline a 9 month old baby? Especially when you won't let him have something and then he hits you or claws you for it? I really don't think there is a way. What do I do Walk away? Tell him no no over and over? Its not like time out would work either, or spanking him. I've had to spat his hand a time or two for getting into rather questionable objects, like the moss you find in fake plants. He thinks its the perfect candy! Who knows what the heck it will do to that cute little body of his.
I shouldn't complain about having battles with a nine month old, in fact I don't know why I'm posting about it at all. He is totally winning! I finally pulled the mom card (such an awesome card to finally be able to use) and I stuck him in his crib a little early for his nap. I got on the computer pulled up the blog and started to type. I must admit I feel much better. Thanks all for listening to my rantings and ravings. I really shouldn't complain at all. I'm so lucky to have the opportunity to be a mama, especially to such a fabulous, lovable, giggly, happy, rolly polly, snuggly, adventurous little boy. I have to remind myself on occasion (today was one of those occasions) that I was the one that chose this path. I wanted to have a baby. I was the one who got pregnant, and with that came the obligation and duty to raise that child into the person that my Heavenly Father wants him to be while here on earth. Well he's here, been here for 9 months and its not temporary thing. It a lifetime commitment. Its a commitment I have to take day to day. I have to live in the present. I can't sit and think I can't wait till he can entertain himself, when he doesn't need me to wipe his poopy bum, or when he finally moves out. Its hard sometimes, like today not to think those things. My point? A few things actually even though its taken me a while to get there. 1. Hayden is what we now call him a DESTRUCTOR! A RAPTOR cause he screams freakishly loud like a raptor, a BABY BEAR cause he growls like you can't believe, and although I have days like I have had so far today. I wouldn't change anything about his adventurous boyish lovable personality even if he drives me crazy sometimes. 2. Be happy with my life. Some people would kill to have a loving husband and a snuggly baby to hold everyday that loves you unconditionally. 3. Cherish destrucTOR while I can. Get all the snuggles, giggles, kisses, hugs, and "him and me" time while I can. He'll be gone one day before ron and I know it raising his own family and providing for them. I won't be his number 1 the rest of his life, but he'll always be mine.
So yes a bit of a down day, but those are 3 things I've realized. Yes I can be annoyed some days, and just want to run away and have special "maggie me" time again, but this is the path I've chosen and I want to always be happy with it even when baby raptor feels its nessessary to inspect my eyes with his claws, unravel the toilet paper roll or pull everything out of the bathroom cupboards cause he can. By the end of the day he is always up for a good snuggle with his mama no matter what the days events were like.
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If you use a stern voice when you tell him no (not like...yelling at him)and give him one of those "I'm the mom and if you disobey me it's going to be hell to pay" looks and constantly remove him from the situation, he'll figure it out really quickly.
On the flip side, kids need to explore. That's how they learn about the world. If we constantly tell them no and don't let them do anything, the urge to explore will never go away. Try letting him "get into things" in a controlled way.
We put the tupperware and tupperware lids in the bottom drawers so Lili could crawl over, open the drawer and play with them. Not ideal for mom and dad, but it lets her explore and learn. Give him a roll of toilet paper to play with...why not? Just make sure it's out of the bathroom so he knows that he can only play with it when you give it to him and watch him so he doesn't eat it.
I learned that as soon as I let Lili get into things more, she began to listen when I asked her not to get into the things that really mattered.
I know it's tough. Mommyhood is hard. I can't believe I asked for another one and am on the verge of it. I was just getting back into a regular sleep pattern. Ugh.
Sorry to hear Mag. I think everyone has those days, (just off days, not baby destructive days cause not everyone has babies :) the best thing to do is get through it and think of tomorrow as a fresh start! I'd say, "just think positive" but sometimes it's fun to be a pessimist :) So just move on when the next day comes right?!
Sorry you had a rough day - Mommyhood is hard and wonderful all wrapped into one. All I can say is enjoy just having one -- because once you have more than one it becomes a circus everyday :) Someone is always having a moment --
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